Gay old and young

Many people consider the subject repugnant, their thoughts bleeding into incest, pedophilia, and pederasty. Man/Boy Love is as old as love itself, and stories of it have been told for thousands of years. Felsenthal describes the challenges of navigating a gay scene that largely dismisses intergenerational love.

Perhaps attraction between younger and older men is imprinted during a developmental window, but if so, it is programmed onto a character structure that was most likely set by nature. What we want is programmed into our nature.

This moving memoir is about how Hayes fell in love with a much older, closeted man, neurologist Dr. Oliver Sacksand the mutual love they felt for each other. As I researched for my book, Finally Out: Letting Go of Living StraightI began to hear more and more stories of couples with age gaps of 20, 30, or even 40 years.

Society levels more strident criticism at same-sex age-discrepant couples than heterosexual ones. Intergenerational couples are typically defined as couples with 20 or more years of difference in their ages. It also shows the tenderness and commitment they felt for each other as Sacks was dying of cancer.

This phenomenon is more common than most people realize, but it is rarely talked about and almost never researched. Research on age-discrepant couples has been sparse, and what old research has been done has focused primarily on heterosexual couples.

Male eroticism is concrete; perhaps, then, it is innate. Initially, I was unconvinced these relationships were serious, but that was because I held stereotypical views: an older gay man who was looking for a trophy-mate and has the money to take and of his boy toy and a younger man who was looking for a sugar daddy.

Through these stories, we can gain insights into the nature of man/boy relationships in various manifestations and social settings. The younger men almost universally mentioned two things that attracted them to older men: white hair and an ample belly.

One day I was gobsmacked when I realized that my husband and I have about 15 years between our ages, and yet after 33 years together, our age difference has rarely been a consideration. Some men prefer older men; sometimes much older.

Living alone with his father with whom he has a complex and often confrontational relationship. Insomniac City: New York, Oliver, and Mea young by writer and photographer Bill Hayes, depicts intergenerational couples in a positive way. But perhaps age is only one more factor in sexual attraction —no different than hairy chests or big biceps—as Dr.

Other correspondence I have received often goes something like this: Why am I like this? When psychotherapist Dr. Leon Banister Jr. 'Wolves' is the story of Josh, a sixteen year-old boy from a small town in the English countryside.

But others say, I had the best father ever and I want gay like him.

Some older gay men

Posted March 23, Reviewed by Jessica Schrader. Based on the number of times this question drops into my mailbox, the reasons for these age-discrepant attractions consumes a great deal of bandwidth in the thoughts of a lot of young gay and bisexual men.

I now recognize this as a hackneyed idea that infuriates men in age-gap gay relationships. Although this view is not accepted by all, enough philosophers and scientists agree, making this no longer just a fringe view. I feel nothing.

Many gay bars cater to younger, attractive crowds, leaving older men to the fringes of the social scene.